VEST Her Podcast: How to Silence Your Inner Critic
- Erika Lucas
- May 31
- 2 min read
Women have long navigated workspaces that weren't built with us in mind, fueling an inner voice of self-doubt that can hold us back. Dr. Amelia Duran-Stanton, author of "The Lotus Within" and Colonel in the US Army with decades of service, shares strategies for quieting that inner critic while building sustainable confidence as a leader.
Dr. Duran Stanton explains her book "The Lotus Within" focuses on strategic planning, time management, and prioritization
True confidence comes from showing up prepared, networking effectively, and knowing who to ask for help
Building confidence is about training like you fight—preparing thoroughly for high-stakes situations
Silencing your inner critic requires trusting your training and refocusing on the mission when self-doubt arises
Women of color should see their identities as differentiators rather than trying to assimilate
Humility and confidence aren't opposites but complementary forces—"like yin and yang"
When transitioning careers, focus on outcomes achieved rather than titles held
Recognize toxic environments using the "boiling frog syndrome" metaphor—periodically assess if you're in a harmful situation
Daily habits like morning journaling, intentional planning, and celebrating wins help build confidence as a muscle
Handle setbacks by allowing yourself to feel the emotion, then asking what you learned and what you'd do differently
About Our Guest
Dr. Amelia Duran-Stanton was born in the Philippines and is the Author of the Lotus Within. Dr. Duran-Stanton is a colonel in the US Army and has served for over thirty-two years, which includes eight years enlisted, with deployments to Kosovo, Iraq, and Afghanistan, and twenty-five years as a PA. She holds a PhD in postsecondary and adult education and a doctor of science in PA studies in orthopedics. She is certified as a Lean Six Sigma Master Black Belt with multiple awards and decorations. She has mentored, coached, sponsored, and taught several women over the years. She’s also published over 100 articles and presentations, with topics ranging from medicine, mentorship, and management.
The author’s/speaker’s views are theirs and do not reflect the official policy of the Department of Army, Department of Defense, or the U.S. Government.
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